Grief Through the Holidays
Most people experience pressure to make the holidays as cheerful and special as possible. Following the death of a loved one, sadness and loss becomes an overlay to what is expected to be a happy time. While difficult, connection is still important as you are able, to avoid being isolated during this time.
Anticipation of certain days (e.g., your loved one's birthday, date of death, and special holidays) can bring a sense of dread and anxiety.
The key is having a pre-thought-out plan on how you can spend the holidays. Including the whole family in discussions can be very helpful.
There is the grief concept of "blind-sided reminders" or "ambush" where powerful senses (such as taste, smell, music) bring up strong reminders of your loved one, especially around the holidays. These feelings are a natural, normal reaction.
